With all the time and effort you’re putting into your wedding, you feel like you should be spending time planning your marriage. And you want to.
But you don’t know where to start.
Traditional pre-marital counseling isn’t an option, so what can you do?
Engaged is a self-guided online course for couples who want to plan for their marriage while they plan their wedding.
Joanna Platt, relationship coach and educator of Engaged, brings sound advice and actionable strategies for building a stable, long-lasting relationship for couples who want to be partners for life.
In a world focused on everything wedding and not much on marriage, slow down, engage, and love always with help from Joanna Platt's online course, Engaged.
Engaged gives you the platform you need to get everything out in the open with one another before you tie the knot. You learn the best ways to communicate socially, personally, sexually, etc. in order to meet the needs of your partner.
Engaged gives you a guide of how to prepare for marriage on every level, and gives you an opportunity to answer discussion questions that you may have never asked or discussed before.
We are so grateful to have taken this course, and we have learned strategies to use going forward in our happy marriage! ~Holly and Russ
Engaged helped to facilitate important conversations that we may not have had if unprompted and made conversations so much easier and less uncomfortable. It gave us a chance to connect with one another on the various topics, as well as each have our own voice.
We learned more about each other and the lines of communication have opened up much more. Learning about our gremlins and the energy levels helped us bring more awareness to how we change depending on how our day went, who we met with, or how we feel in certain situations (work environment, spending time with family, etc.).
We enjoyed the examples, research, additional resources, and personal experiences Joanna discussed. In just a few weeks you can really improve both your verbal and non-verbal communication and gain a better and deeper understanding of your partner. In the end, it will set you on a path to build a stronger relationship.
~Eric and Caroline
Each lesson has a downloadable audio, a written transcript, and discussion questions. You'll receive one lesson a week for 10 weeks.
Lesson 1: The Three Entities in a Marriage
Lesson 2: The Other Two Entities in Your Marriage
Lesson 3: The 7 Levels of Energy
Lesson 4: Assumptions, Interpretations, and Limiting Beliefs in Marriage
Lesson 5: Communication
Lesson 6: Money
Lesson 7: Division of Labor
Lesson 8: Sex
Lesson 9: Fidelity
Lesson 10: Family (in-laws)
About the Instructor
Joanna Platt is a life and relationship coach who believes the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. She helps people figure out who they want to be in marriage, family, and friendships, and helps them feel joy and ease in relationships. Joanna graduated from the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching. She's married to her high school sweetheart, Mike, who she still adores.
I created Engaged after my best friend texted me:
“What books would you recommend we read before we get married?
We’re not doing pre-marital counseling because we’re not having a religious ceremony but I feel like we should do something.”
My husband and I were on a retreat at the time, a weekend getaway we do multiple times a year to check in with each other and reflect on how things are going in our marriage and in our lives.
I sat in the hotel and scribbled down every possible thing that might help my friend. Then I met my husband at a bar and we started writing a list of questions they could discuss together. Questions that get to the heart of who they are and what they want their marriage to be.
I created this for her, and I created this for you.
Engaged is for couples who want to set the foundation for a long, fulfilling marriage. For couples who want to prepare for their marriage while they prepare for their wedding but don't know where to start.
I want to help you see the best in your partner and in yourself and I want to help your partner see those things too.
Engaged will help you do just that.
Frequently Asked Questions
I’m not sure if my partner will go for this. He's not into this kind of stuff. She won’t think we need it.
I get it. It’s vulnerable to pitch something like this. When we feel vulnerable, our inner critics jump into protect us. Often this protection looks like projecting our fears and doubts onto our partner so that we won’t even bring it up. After all, if we don’t bring it up, we can’t be rejected.
Acknowledge the fear and vulnerability that might be coming up for you. These feelings are normal. Pushing them down doesn’t help and won’t help you show up for a conversation about Engaged in a confident, strong way. So acknowledge them. Then, remind your inner critic that you won’t know for certain until you ask your partner about it. (We talk in depth about the inner critic in lesson 2 of Engaged.)
Here are some things that might help you feel more comfortable about asking your partner to do Engaged:
1. This is an investment in you, your partner, and your relationship.
2. Benefits of Engaged include deeper feelings of connection and closeness between partners and tips to make communication easier and more effective. Feelings of emotional closeness often lead to desire for physical closeness too. (Sex sells. ;) )
We're so busy planning our wedding, I'm not sure we'll have time for this.
Engaged takes about an hour a week. Audio lessons can be downloaded to your phone to listen on the go. You can listen on your commute and then sit down for 30 minutes on Saturday morning to talk over coffee and breakfast. And, you’ll have lifetime access to the lessons so if you get busy, you can do them anytime in the future. Maybe when you need them, or on an anniversary.
We're not engaged yet. Can we still do Engaged?
Absolutely! Engaged will help you feel closer to your partner regardless of whether or not you're engaged yet.
We're already married. Can we still do Engaged?
Absolutely! There are concepts in Engaged that you probably haven't thought of or discussed in this way yet. Two in particular that are game changers: your inner critics and ways to think about sex.
Can I do Engaged on my own?
You can do Engaged on your own and still see benefits to your relationship.